Sometimes, gratitude is hard. When your partner is screaming at you. When the baby wakes you at 3am, 4am, and 5am. When you get called for jury duty during your first vacation in three years.
But gratitude isn’t made for the easy moments.
Gratitude can feel like a pouring out, like you have to have a certain amount of energy and emotional reserve built up in order to feel or express it. Gratitude can also be a pouring in. Gratitude happens when you crack your heart open to the beauty of the world, even when it hurts.
Gratitude’s best moment is actually when it is hard. When you are struggling, take a deep breath. You don’t have to feel amazing in that moment. Maybe all you can manage is to be grateful you have a bed, or that you are not in pain. Maybe your gratitude will have nothing to do with what you’re experiencing. Or maybe you can be grateful you have a partner and a baby, even when they’re screaming. Grateful you have a job even when you’re being asked to work overtime on your birthday.
The individual thing you are grateful for isn’t the point, though.
Gratitude is a process. Gratitude is digging deep, shifting the course of your mind’s river one pebble at a time. If you can let even a little light in when you’re feeling down, that is a step in the right direction.
What has been a time you struggled to feel gratitude? How did you handle it? Share in the comments!